For most of my career I’ve worked as an ACE-certified personal trainer at Equinox Fitness Clubs in New York City. I graduated Rutgers University with a B.S. in Exercise Science. I am an RKC Level 1 certified kettlebell instructor and a Yogaworks-certified Hatha Yoga instructor. I am a CHEK-Institute certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach (Level 3) and Exercise Coach, as well as HealthExcel Metabolic Typing Advisor. I’ve done intensive study in Holistic Life Coaching with the Journeys of Wisdom Institute. I am also a certified facilitator of THEGROOVE dance method.
While working in fitness and nutrition for so many years in New York City, I've obviously gone on my fair share of both good and bad dates. I used to chronicle these dates on my former blog, Soulmateinthecity.com, which was voted one of the Top 10 Dating Blogs for 30-somethings by DatingAdvice.com. More recently, I am the author of the book Dating as a Spiritual Adventure: Avoid Red Flags, Rock the Journey and Find the One. As a dating and relationship coach, author and speaker, it is my mission to apply spiritual principles to the subject of modern-day romance.
and now the real stuff:
I'm just like you...I want a life full of passion, meaning and purpose. And quite honestly while I was working like a slave in fitness to pay bills to live in New York City, killing myself to be in shape, all to have absolutely no love life...well I just had to take a step back and re-evaluate everything. That was when at the age of 37, I gave up my apartment, put all my stuff in storage, quit my job and ran off to travel Europe for 3 months. It ended up being the best thing I ever did because I finally got some clarity on what was important to me. I finally got to sit with my own thoughts for 3 months instead of being influenced by people around me and the culture I'm from.
When I came back to NYC, everything had changed. I changed. The city that once filled me with wonder and excitement now filled me with anxiety and exhaustion. Every time I thought about signing a new lease for a new apartment my stomach turned. I was in a true transition phase of my life and I didn't know which way to go.
So I moved in with my mother in NJ. And it was not where I thought I was going to be for 2 years while I figured out my next move. (Did I mention that my mom lives in a gated retirement community and I was living there illegally? Haha, good times.) As a culture, we don't generously give people time and space to be in transition and figure things out when life doesn't turn out the way they thought it would, or when their values have totally changed. I look back and can see the blessings in that move. I got some space to finish my book, I got to travel more, I got to take workshops on coaching and also some financial risks like running a women's wellness retreat in Puerto Rico.
But of course the rest of the world does not see that you are in transition building for the next phase of your life. Most people only see the outward results which added up to me being 37 and moving back in with my mom. I know what it's like when you have a dream and you have to do the uncomfortable, unsexy thing to make it happen, when the people around you think you're crazy and look down on you. I've been there. If you're there, and you're looking for someone to coach you step by step through the uncomfortable, unsexy changes and transitions you may be going through in your relationships, health and career, contact me and tell me what you are working on. I will get you to that next phase with supportive vision, honest feedback and innovative solutions.
I understand the almost paralyzing fear that can come with change, especially big life change, especially when you are at an age when you "should have figured out your life by now." (Whatever that means!) I promise you, my life is a living testimonial to the fact that you are never too old to change. Just the smallest willingness is all that is needed to send your life in a new direction that more accurately reflects the person that you have become.
How do I know? Because I am writing this to you from my apartment in the Canary Islands where I have built an entirely new life consistent with the values that are most important to me. I have the time to take care of my health and spend time in nature. I've got an entirely new group of friends that I have the time to socialize with. And yes, after moving here I met my incredible boyfriend, who is simply the best human I have ever known that I met in the most serendipitous way. We're learning Spanish and surfing together. I am a life coach to clients back in the USA and I teach yoga classes here on the beach.
So when clients and readers say to me, "But Jackie, my dreams seem so impossible/out there/unaffordable/unrealistic/weird," I can confidently say from direct possible experience that, "anything is possible."